There are situations that we might experience in our life that cause us to dwell on things that have happened in the past. We all have emotions and this is alright to do as long as it does not affect the present or the future. It is only natural that we sometimes cling to the past but we have to learn how to let go of the past so we can have a successful future.
You might be experiencing things today that could be interfering with you daily because of situations that happened to you in the past. Some of those situations might involve losing a loved one, having just bad luck in the past and breaking up with your partner or best friend. These are just a few of the things that could come about in life and cause you problems in the present.
If you do not learn how to let go of the past then you might find yourself getting sick a lot and seeming as if you are trapped in a circle with no way to escape. Depression slowly comes in and it might be hard to have a positive attitude towards anything that happens which just cause’s things to get worse for you. Here are 5 tips on how to let go of the past and move on in life.
1. Dwell on The Past
Yes, you read that correctly. Try and pick a time at night to dwell on things that happened in the past. Make sure to set some sort of time limit. Only dwell on it for 30 minutes and then move on. This advice might sound strange but after you dwell on the past you must then try and give yourself a personal challenge with not dwelling on the past anymore after that time is up or even before the time comes. Dwelling on the past is just something that you do every night at a certain time and not throughout the day or evening.
2. Think the Past Through
When it comes time to think on the past, in that time that you have set aside for it, then make sure that you think the past through. Ask questions and give yourself honest replies. Some of the questions might include “Why does this memory or situation in my life matter so much to me?” “Should I allow this situation or memory to cause myself to become restricted with opportunities that might currently come my way?” “What might happen to me if I am faced with another reminder of this brutal memory?” What steps can I personally take in order to move on from this memory, accept the memory and then move forward in life?”
3. Do Not Continue Rehashing The Past
Sometimes people talk about the past because they are hoping that they might be able to gain some sort of new insight and maybe even hear what they want to hear but doing this will not work. The more you stop trying to talk about your story to others and dwell on what happened then it won’t have so much power over you. Remember, you are the one that is in control and the only way for you to get into is not to always be dwelling on the past but only within the time period that you set aside for yourself every night.
4. Realize What or Who Matters the Most
This might be a hard step but stop trying to forget about who use to be there for you and might not be there for you anymore. Find out who really touches your life right now. After you let go of the ones that cared for you in the past then be there for the ones that care for you in the present. Form a team together and help each other overcome the past because the past might be causing them problems. A relationship which is reciprocated is the only one that will work out.
5. Let Go Of Items That Might Hold You Down and Make New Memories
This is two different steps wrapped into one. Get some sort of shoebox or even just some sort of bag and toss items in it that might be causing you to hold onto what happened. Some examples include a wedding ring from your ex, jewelry, letters and maybe even old toys that you’ve kept from your teenage years. Put all of those in a box or bag and hide it. Once you have a new mindset that’s different and positive then you can get those items out again as long as it doesn’t cause you to go back to what you use to be. Often times this is not an overnight process but can take weeks and even months to overcome.
One way of being able to fully let go is with creating new memories which are positive. Join clubs, meet other people that might be like minded, keep active and busy. As you start to let go of the past remember that new doors often times open and you must allow yourself to be ready for new memories and friendships then learn that you can accept them without the past tormenting you.
Guess what? After you stop dwelling on the past then you can create a glorious brand new future and daily picture yourself becoming successful, healthy and being happy.